My brother and I have not always gotten along or been the closest of brothers, but this weekend really put a wall up between us. I won't go into detail, but I hope anyone out there who has a family member that maybe something happened to cause a longstanding rift understands what I mean.
I wrote a new song about the possibility of looking back in twenty years and having not been in touch with him for that period of time. What would it be like? What would I think? How would I feel?
It basically is a what-if scenario played out that asks, what if I allowed this moment to overcome our brotherly bond? That feeling of not wanting to know your own brother and perhaps regretting it many years later is what this song is about...just follow the link to my myspace page in the upper-right to hear "Brother."
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Sadly, I know all too well what this reality feels like.
This song really captures that sadness: two siblings that love each other, but just don't understand each other.
This song is really interesting, please explain where the deep meaning comes from. I am curious to learn what happened between you and your brother because my brother does not understand me either. We are two years apart and very different from each other. Its like he just doesn't understand me - he's younger and can be so selfish and your song describes us perfectly.
Hi Jim,
The wonderful thing about songs is that they can mean so many different things to different people. But when I wrote this song, I wrote it as a song of loss and mourning because I felt like I had lost my brother. I won't go into details, but I felt like he had pushed me away, as if he no longer loved me, or maybe never had...
He and I are very different, yes, but I still love him. The narrator of the song is singing from the perspective of someone much older than me who has been estranged from his brother for some time...20 or 30 years, maybe. He is questioning whether he ever showed his lost brother how much he loved him, and there is an implicit understanding that he thinks that if he had, maybe things would have been better between them. Maybe if he had said how much he loved his brother, they wouldn't have had their falling out. He blames himself in the song.
And do I blame myself a little for what has come to pass between my own brother and me? Yes.
Jim, I hope you and your brother learn that even though you may not always get along, it's important that you keep trying. He may not always understand you, but he loves you. And sometimes when people are acting selfishly, we have to take it upon ourselves to understand why they are acting that way. Sometimes we just don't see things from their perspective, and it's hard to do. I hope you keep trying to understand one another and work things out.
Take care.
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